Lonedove,

hi. Thank you connecting, I understand how difficult this situation can be. Yes I finally did. It got to the point where I needed to know for myself, rather than wanting to know. And we had a very honest, open and kind-hearted discussion. That first talk he said he didn’t know if he had time for a relationship and that he’s really slow this stuff…and came up with a solution I later that night realized wouldn’t work for me emotionally. So I told him I needed time to think about what we talked about and several days later I realized that what I really desired was for me to be happy and for him to be as well. And understanding where he was coming from I simply said that I really cared about him and that i want him to be successful and do all the things that made him happy. But that what we talked about wouldn’t work for me. Then I said maybe you need to go do what you need to do and I need to do what I need to do. And then I told him that I hope I am still available when he does what get to “that” place in his life. He wasn’t all for it, but he’s currently thinking about what I said. He wanted time and said he’s slow at this type of stuff. That was a week and a half ago and we haven’t spoken since.

This is all all coming from a place of love, and of course, hands down, I don’t want to lose him. But yeah know, if that’s what he needs right now, I am happy to give it to him.