Dear Jay:

It is amazing, isn’t it, how little we know the people we think we know. It helps when people are honest and simply tell it like it is, but if they don’t, then we fill in the gaps of what we don’t know with assumptions- and voila- we have an image of who the person is, carry on that image for decades, only to realize later we got it all wrong…

And now that you know that L was not honest, as I wrote before, when she wrote that last email, stating she was happy, you know this is not necessarily so. What she appears to be now and in the future is suspect, as far as it being an indication to how she really feels and how she experiences life.

Back to the title of your thread: How to get over this? Here is a possible answer: get an X-Ray vision into people (plus the practice of resisting an obsession).

anita