Dear Tommy:

You felt an intense need for her and at the same time, you felt an intense fear of losing her. The reason, I believe, that you felt those two intense feelings: need/ attachment on one hand, and fear on the other, after only seeing her six times or so, is because she triggered something.

What I think she triggered is the intense attachment you had to a parent (most likely), and the intense fear you had, as a child, to lose that parent, or to lose the parent’s love.

Am I correct?

anita