Hi Anita,

You are correct – they want to migrate to my country to work. And you are right, I won’t need them and they won’t really have direct power over me. I guess i’m having some form of PTSD where I feel like I need a solution in cause I re-experience that traumatic experience where I’m in a situation where I need to depend on bullies to survive and I have no escape. And feeling guilty about cutting off the few good people who are unfortunately, close to the baddies.

How can they hurt me? By spreading negative word about me to others – e.g. don’t trust him, he had no friends at med school, no one likes him, he’s incompetent, etc.

On a side note, when I’m try to meet new people, I am often asked why i go alone or don’t have a group of friends and that this is very unusual for a guy my age. I tell myself that people who judge me for my social worth or on what others say about me are not worth it, but unfortunately, there’s not much I can do when some very beautiful and educated women are turned off by me not having friends.

In my country, the judicial system offers very good protection for bullying and harassment for people who are adults.

Once again, I really appreciate you taking the time to help me through. Thank you.