Dear V:

Going to couple therapy with your boyfriend is an excellent idea. Your healing from your PTSD is more important, is of a much higher value, than his pleasure watching porn. He has to stop it. And re-visit the issue in a year. This is my suggestion.

I just noticed, part of the title of your thread is “my anxiety is killing my relationship”- how about the optional title: My relationship is killing my healing?

Nothing is more important than your healing, your mental and physical well being. I sure hope the couple session will help him understand. Maybe a solution will be suggested that I can’t think of right now, one that will be accepted by you and him, one that will not stand in the way of your healing.

And you are very welcome. Anytime.

anita