Dear alyahB:

You wrote: “I want a man who knows what he wants and its me. With conviction. Who expresses his feelings. Who pursues me with passion.”

The following sentence is: “A is the complete opposite.”

Clearly, from your own words, your own assertion: A is not the man you want.

You wrote about A that it “seems like he has big heart”-

the following does not indicate a big heart: “We would only hook up late at night. He never invited me out, never communicated about anything other than sex. This went on for years… he had a girlfriend the entire time we were hooking up… We hook up if we happen to be in the same city, etc.. it’s like he didnt even care that I was there. Was always gone with his friends, we had no intimate hangouts…The other guy…shows genuine effort, something A has never shown”

This is my understanding: The only context he may have a “big heart” with you is in the sexual context. This is the only context where he may be generous to you. There is no indication of a big heart outside this context. Not in all the years he has interacted with you.

You asked: “Should I block him and forget about him and believe if we’re meant to be, we will be brought together at the right time?”- I would block him, yes. Believe it may be “meant to be”- no, I wouldn’t believe that at all. After years of the same experience you had, consistently, unfailingly, I wouldn’t have faith in a future with him beyond the one context.

You wrote: “I don’t want my days being plagued by insecurity of seeing his photos/him liking other girl”- blocking him will be helpful in clearing your days from this insecurity.

No matter how strong your feelings for him, these feelings you have are not congruent with reality beyond the one context.

I hope you find a man”who knows what he wants and its me. With conviction. Who expresses his feelings. Who pursues me with passion”!

anita