Dear Alex,

either you live in truth or illusion. You have been married for quite a while and you and your wife still have no emotional bond. Most likely it will never happen. Someone might suggest that you go to couple”s therapy – I don”t. If you are not truly compatible with each other, no therapy will ever help. Sure, things might improve a little between you, but is that how you want to live your life, just settling?

Without looking for it, it seems that you have found a person, who you have so much common with. One word: divorce. In your culture it is not very common and for sure it would damage the relationship with your parents for a long time.

There are two options: either you are honest with yourself (to me that is the the only way to live) or you sacrifice your happiness and probably create a lot of bitterness inside. The choice is yours! 🙂