Dear laelithia:

The truth as I see it at this point: you communicated with him for two weeks before you met him. You met him in person three times for a total of less than seven days. That was the extent of the relationship, time wise.

During less than seven days spent together, in person he told you that you are the one, his soulmate, that he is 100% yours, that you will grow old together, and you talked about getting married and having children.

The very short relationship is over and you wonder what you did wrong to make him figure, after all, that you are not the one; you wonder what you did wrong to cause him to go from 100% yours to 0%, (“I can’t help but feel like it was something (or a few things) that I did that made him change his mind about me being ‘the one'” and “I’m really struggling.. what part of this was his doing, and what part was my insecurities..”)

* Notice: it is more believable to you that you caused a loving man to withdraw his plans to spend the rest of his life with you in one week, than it is for you to believe that his statements were lies, based on the seven days context.

(Maybe he didn’t lie; maybe during the short time he was with you, he was on the manic phase of a bipolar disorder. Maybe he believed the things he said because he was on drugs, extremely immature, unwell. I don’t know.. but you don’t know either, you didn’t have the time needed to get to know him).

So those feelings of inadequacy, those may be needed to be attended to?

anita