Hi Anita,

I think actually this is a good idea. I feel like as soon as I see him (it’s been a month now) I will know 1) how I truly feel about him, and 2) I will be able to see how he feels about me.

He said he’s going to message me when this girl that is staying with him leaves on Monday. I’m wary of even entertaining getting back together with him, as he seems so fickle right now. I think really what keeps me thinking about the whole thing is I can’t help but wonder what would have happened if I took things slower with him. If I had not got infatuated with this fantasy future, too. Part of me feels like we would still be dating, but at a regular, healthy pace.

On the other hand, he said something on the phone call Thursday that sort of confused me. At first he said he didn’t know why his feelings for me changed the last weekend we spent together, but that he just didn’t think I was “the one”. Then, later in the phone call, he said he realized “I like my type for a reason”, implying I wasn’t his type. When I asked what his type was, he said “I don’t know, blue eyes, Caucasian”. I’m mixed trace (Asian and European) and definitely don’t have blue eyes. He said there was that initial infatuation because he’s never dating someone like me before.

I don’t know if this is something I should just accept, or if he’s simply looking for something to say to get me to stop asking, or what that’s about. I don’t get how that somehow was an issue the last time we saw each other, when before that, he told me constantly how “gorgeous” and “beautiful” I was, and how adorable our future children would be.

I suppose I’ll wait to see if I do hear from him after that girl leaves. Perhaps all of this is irrelevant, perhaps she is “the one” for him. However, given his track record, I would be surprised that after staying with him for a week straight that he didn’t change his mind about her, too. Or maybe he will romance her for a little longer, like he did with me, who knows.

Either way, my gut instinct is telling me that seeing him in some sort of capacity, like for coffee, would provide me with these answers I’m looking for. The difficult part is that he lives 3 hours away, and I’m not sure if he would agree to meeting.