Dear wildoceanflower:

I understand the relevance to you of looking younger than you are.

You wrote that finding peace of mind is nearly impossible when family, love and commitment aren’t available, these things being what other people take for granted.

If there is one person, one woman who is unmarried, not in a relationship and still, experiences peace of mind, then it is possible for you too.

You wrote: “i wished too much that i was ‘good enough’ to meet the approval, to finally be the right person”- what if there was no possible “right daughter” for your mother, that she would have been dissatisfied with any daughter she had? What if you were good enough from the very beginning and you just didn’t know it?

And what if there is no such thing as the “right woman” for your ex, that he would be (and is) dissatisfied with any woman in his life?

What if you are good enough and you just don’t know it.

anita