Dear Asad:

You definitely deserve to have clear information from her, such as:

-what is the nature of her relationship with the man that she sees once a year?

-are her parents pressuring her to date that man once a year? to marry him and have the two of them live together? What is her parents’ motivation regarding this man and her?

-did her parents threaten to “send her back to the Philippines”?

I think that she owes you this information and you need it so to make your decision to keep this relationship going as is, change it, or end it.

anita