Dear Tectonic Tranquility:

What woman will not be distressed knowing her husband spends alone time with another woman, until 4 am, sometimes later, shops for food with her, eats with her, goes for walks…

No wonder you are distressed.

The very fact that he spends all this time with her, alone, into the morning, is a breeding ground for a married man having an affair even if the wife is perfect in each and every way.

I don’t see a way you can be at peace with this situation unless you are at peace with him having an affair now or anytime in the near future.

You are focused on what you need to improve about yourself but how can you improve when you live under such distress, in a situation that is distressing and would be distressing to any wife and mother of a young child?

I believe that this project he is working on, with her, it has to end ASAP. It is not fair to you.

anita