Hi Anita, i dont intend to contact him anymore. He did send a text to my parents, they told me this morning. i know it was my fault for getting out of control with texting him, i wanted answers that i just wont get from him..its been really so so difficult being alone, then to get the creepy profile when i tried online dating…he makes me feel trapped.

I dont love him anymore, ive left nothing lingering to chance for sure its extreme..this was clearly my closure.

The disturbing part of the story is him..a normal person would not have done what he did, my family are not used to dealing with police when they disagree, he is and has always had issues with other people and jumps to extremes.  there is evidence to the contrary of what he says, both from witnesses and from texts on my phone. I remember he had a verbal fight with a business connection..the guy told me to my face that he had threatened him..at the time i was shocked but again, why did i not see it as a pattern? because it was the first time.

But i have learnt my lesson the hard way, I am not going to contact him again or any of his family. He is sick. I have been nostalgic for our life but it was probably largely in my wishful thinking.

I just have to make a mind block for myself, remind myself of his dangerous side everytime i feel sad. If his own family said i was better off without him, i should believe them..he can rant all he wants. I know full well that they have seen it all before.

The upsetting thing is that he has moved to live in my area.

Im sorry for the shock