Dear Aks:

In the post before last you wrote: “i am emotionally weak”- this is not my understanding, that you are emotionally weak. My understanding is that you are in a very difficult situation created by your parents AND by your boyfriend. They are unreasonable. And so, the problem is not that you are emotionally weak. The problem is that you are in the middle of two unreasonable parties: your parents on one hand, and your boyfriend on the other. They are both too emotional and not rational enough.

Unfortunately, you are the only one respecting rational thinking in this situation. First thing I suggest is to get yourself out of the urgency that you feel. You don’t have to take in your boyfriend’s urgency. Give him back his urgency, the mental pressure he inflicted on you and take in you calm and rational thinking.

If you continue to be taken over by your boyfriend’s urgency and mental pressure, you will continue to suffer, you are more likely to make the wrong choices, being under such distress, and as a result, nothing good will come out of it, not even for your boyfriend.

Being as emotional as he is, your boyfriend doesn’t know what is good for him. You know better.

First thing first: get that calm, rational attitude. Then post again and we can continue to work on figuring this out, if you’d like.

anita