Hi Hang:

It looks like you got some great answers, but just wanted to add my 2 cents. If you don’t love him, is there any particular reason you want him back? Write down on a piece of paper the pros and cons of what he have you in the relationship and why you are now better off without him. Let’s say, you did get back together with him..it’s very hard to rekindle the flames you had before..then you will wander, why you took him back and be more miserable..and it will take you that much longer to get over him.

We always want what we can’t have. Do you just want him back, because you are lonely when you see him happy with this new girl? Try to have a clean break with him..and please don’t go on his Facebook profile, Twitter, etc, it will only make you more upset..don’t answer his calls..don’t go where he hangs out..change your number if you have to. Get rid of all reminders of him..you don’t have to throw it away, just put it in a box under the bed where you can’t see them.

Try to keep busy, so you are not thinking about him so much. Be happy with yourself and your life, and then the right man will see you as a happy strong independent woman and gravitate toward you. Men don’t like women checking up in them..drama, intensity, jealousy..so work out any issues of you have these so you can have a happy and healthy relationship with a man who is emotionally available and wants to commit to you.