Hi Rich,

All this sounds really good. You did some work on yourself, and now you’re thinking about opening up to the possibilities of meeting and having relationships. I don’t know you personally (obviously), but I’m not a big fan of people isolating themselves for long periods of time to get to know themselves. I think we are social creatures and that in fact, one of the best (if not THE best) way to grow is via our relationships with others. That being said, there are some who jump from relationship to relationship that I do think truly need to get out of that loop.

Regarding your question about coping with inevitable failure…. well, I’m thinking to go slowly. Get to know a few women. Enjoy them. Do things together without rushing to become a “couple.” Practice talking. Practice listening. And I think there’s some wisdom in your group therapy experience. If you could find a similar situation, or make new buddies and platonic female friends (like in clubs with people who have similar interests), that probably would again give you some healthy support.

It sounds like overall you’re in a decent place and looking forward.

Craig