I am getting ready to go to a mandatory group, but will try to think more about your question and how I messed these relationships up..mostly I think, it was poor impulse control (the BPD), I would say things, I couldn’t take back, or I would do the passive aggressive, silent treatment, slam doors, verbal abuse, when I was verbally abused, insults when I was insults. It was like I loved being in love, then reality set in..then it all went downhill, and I would get too intense, another issue, I am working on.