I was so happy discovering this thread and not feeling alone in this. I am gone through a very similar experience to Budhaa88 but with my best friend. we had 2 years where i would describe the relationship with the word harmony. Everything was good , we used to work together , see each other everyday, we even traveled to several countries to gather. No red flag whatsoever.I was very happy and found my haven. Until one day we had a little argument and since that day EVERYTHING collapsed. I became very anxious feeling that i am losing my best friend . I fought with everything i could . But it was  a hopeless case, the more i fought the more she became distant. She became cold and this left me in a very ugly situation. I tried to talk to her several times , i even apologized when i wasn’t wrong. Nothing would work . She will shout at me accusing me of being the weird person and that she is doing effort with me. Mind you that during this phase she was nice to every one but me. After several readings i came to the point where i can identify her as a covert narcissist. I am healing now. I just wonder what was happening during the first phase where everything was fine ? what was she thinking of ?