Hi AdleyFlores,

I too have this same problem. Sometimes, it many be a matter of being bored with a healthy and loving relationship. When you desribe wanting “better” do you think you might be wanting “excitement” “passion” “being in love” and the euphoria it brings? “intensity”.

I know with me, I had a very unstable, chaotic childhood. So, I’m my adult life, I tend to go for men that mirror what I was given or not given in my childhood. For example, my father due to travel, was never there, so I tend to attract emotionally available men, I try to “fix” them, but what I am really trying to fix is my Dad, and unresolved issues.

I also gravitate to men who don’t really love me, or maybe I can’t love them, other than the high of being “in love” this is my way of trying to fix my Alcololic mother who constantly abandoned, neglected and verbally, emotionally abused me. Unless, I have intensity in my relationships, I tend to grow bored with “healthy love”.

Now, you may have had a great childhood. But still may want some kind of excitement and spontaneous fun in your relationship. Try to develop that in your relationship. Do things with him you have never done before. Bed and breakfast, a long romantic evening drive, going to a planetarium and looking at the stars through a telescope, going to a different country together, going to a casino, going to a hotel for the heck of it like you were on a vacation, get massages together, anything to get you out of your routine, to make you fall in love again and add excitement. Keep us posted.