Hi Lily,

I just wanted to something to my original post. I’m not saying forgive him now, but remember, God, Forgave us for our sins, by sacrificing his only begotten son. Therefore, we must forgive others. Not for their sake but for ours. Holding onto grudges, bitterness, resentment, only makes us stuck and more depressed, trapped in a cycle.

If we are unforgiving, we can’t move forward, because we are stuck, mired with bitterness, misery, hardness and anger. Forgiveness is more for us, it’s allowing us to let it go, so we can move on with our lives. Its allowing bitterness not to poison us, so we don’t bring it to our next relationship. If you go to your future relationship with unforgivenes in our heart, bitterness, resentment, grudges, men are quick to pick up on this and men do not want a woman who is stuck with all these negative, angry emotions. They wonder, if they make even a small mistake..will they be forgiven? Forgiving will help you move on. I’m not saying you have to forget what he did to you, but but there is a reason for everything, and yes, what he did was horrible, but you must forgive for you. Don’t live your life living in resent, an unforgiving heart, anger and bitterness. Try to stay positive, and know that God is opening the door for something so much better for you.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 6 months ago by Eliana.