Dear Momongirl:

It is my understanding that you have a best friend, a man who is gay. Your friendship is close, intimate although not sexual. When you spend time with him, you don’t think or need your long distance boyfriend. It is understandable that when you are in the presence of a person with whom you are very close, that you don’t feel lonely, and therefore you don’t miss someone else. You are content.

It is natural to need connections and company in-person. Long distance relationships are not satisfactory, not for most people, I believe. Not for long.

You feel closeness, emotional intimacy with your gay friend with whom you spend a lot of time with, in person. On the other hand, understandably, you feel less close to a boyfriend who you don’t spend time with, a Long Distance boyfriend.

Am I understanding correctly so far?

anita