Dear Aks:

You wrote above that your boyfriend taught you to stand up for yourself. Standing up for yourself, being assertive, is a healthy practice, and should apply to your relationship with everyone, including with your boyfriend. So, if he applies unfair pressure on you- stand up for yourself and tell him so.

You wrote earlier that your boyfriend is mostly emotional and that you are emotional and rational. Later you wrote that you may have to let this relationship go, end the relationship. It reads reasonable to me, that it might be a good choice for you.

As I wrote before, I am not for arranged marriages and definitely against marrying someone you don’t want to marry. But not all chosen marriages are a good idea either. I hope that when you do marry, it will be to a good man, one who is honest, kind, loving and rational.

Do feel free to post anytime with updates. I will reply every time.

anita