Hi Thomas,

I think it’s highly likely you will share something amazing with someone again. However, from my distant vantage point, I don’t see how you can have this with your ex as long as 1) she is with someone else (regardless of her justifications), 2) there is a lack of mutual commitment to communicate consistently, and 3) you and she don’t come up with a plan to be in the same city.

At a bare minimum, her involvement with this other guy makes it nearly impossible for you to have honest and healthy communication with her, as I doubt she is having honest and healthy communication with the other guy. Triangles are typically really toxic.