Dear Aks:

On the practical level, you talking to your parents is not going to do a thing for your boyfriend. He focuses on you talking to your parents as if (AS IF) it will help the two of you get married. But like your sister said, and according to your parents’ reaction that one time, and according to your own evaluation- they will continue to deny this proposed marriage.

I am bewildered about his insistence that you talk with them.

Like I wrote to you many times before, he shouldn’t have pressured you to talk with them, not only because it is fruitless, but because of the torture you have experienced for so long because of his relentless and unfair pressure.

You lied to him- led him on- and shouldn’t have. The reason you did is that you were afraid to lose him.

Back to the title of your thread: “In the toughest time… what to do??”- my answer at this point is: end this relationship. The more you share, the less I like your boyfriend. As I wrote before: if you did get married with him, he is likely to apply unfair pressure on you, I believe, regarding future issues. This is not healthy for you.

anita