Hi Isabella,

It doesn’t help that it was your first love. I am not sure any break up will hit you harder. Hang in there. It takes about three months for a person to return to their baseline happiness after a negative event. In the meantime, try to work on that baseline happiness. Find something you love to do and love doing it! Also, learning helps me to get out of my own head and focus on something other than my own problems. I have been using Duolingo lately and it’s amazing how learning another language can make you totally forget about your problems.

It helps to not only focus on how much you miss the person, but also the things that you don’t like. He sounds like a great guy, but no one is perfect.

And there is always hope. He is young, you are young. Maybe he was overwhelmed. Maybe in time he will mature and be ready, but in the meantime there are so many possibilities for your future that instead of looking back, look forward!