Dear jess2277:

As the social beings that we are we need other people and we need them to see us, hear us, attend to us. What you expressed is that your father doesn’t attend to you, your mother doesn’t, neither does your husband, nor your friends. When no one sees us, it is like we don’t exist, like we are invisible. It feels “so empty..sad and weak” to be invisible, to almost not exist.

Often people are busy, so busy that they don’t see or care to see who is just in front of them. They have their problems, their anxieties, their drives, distractions… and they don’t see.

Sometimes we don’t see others who are in front of us.

Tell your husband that he is not seeing you, hearing you, that you need to be seen and heard, that your feelings matter too. Tell the friend who tries to sell you products that you are not her customer, that you don’t wish to be her customer. Ask the other friend why she follows what you are doing with doing the same as you did, repeatedly, what is her motivation?

Make yourself seen, heard, known and see, hear, get to know others. Then select the people you want in your life, have the trustworthy ones in your life, not the ones not worthy of your trust.

anita