Dear Lukas:

Clearly, it was the wrong choice for you to marry her. It is clear to you, you repeatedly indicated that. You suggested that you married her because of fear and guilt, not good reasons. Now you are married, have a child,  and you are holding on to beliefs that deny divorce.

There are a few possible solutions to your problem, none of them is easy because none will feel good, at least not for a long time:

1) Separate/ get a divorce.

2) Have an emotional/ physical relationship with your co-worker, stay married and/ or get a divorce.

3) Work on fixing this relationship.

Which one are you considering?

anita