Dear Scott:

Regarding what makes her tick, her ego, insecurities… what is crucial to a relationship is mutual respect, not harming each other regardless of one’s insecurities, childhood, etc.

I like your thinking. Stay present and flexible (playing it by ear). Regarding your relationship anxiety (title of thread), being afraid to lose it, interesting to note: losing it may possibly be a good thing. I am not suggesting that you should end it. I am suggesting that you do remain flexible and re-evaluate it periodically.

Why fear it ending, when it may be for your benefit if it does end sometime in the future, and if a better option presents itself for a way better relationship in the future?

Of course, I know the nature of anxiety and it doesn’t listen very well to such logic that I just presented, but thinking this kind of logic once in a while can help.

anita