Dear Anita,

It’s easy for us to pick at each other and I don’t know why. It’s like a defense mechanism. If she is critical towards me, it’s hard not to hold a grudge against her, as I mentioned resentment is slowly building up.

But I would agree. I’ll have fun with what I can but I’m not going to set anything in stone. I’m considering even letting her know how I feel about her actions and negativity towards me at times and mentioning that I have thoughts about ending the relationship. Not as a threat, but a way to show her how much it’s starting to take a toll on me. She sometimes lacks the gratitude and appreciation and I’ll tell you what, it can be painful for how much you do.