Hi Jeff

If this feels the same way it felt during your first marriage. Something has to change. The only constant thing IN your first marriage and in this relationship now is YOU.

You are definitely the “give it your all” type of person. Who I use to be during my first marriage.

Time to change buddy. Time to love yourself and love being on your own. WE shouldn;t get divorced just to get married again. We get divorced to love ourselves more and then find someone to love the b est version of us. We shouldn’t take our old baggage with us into a new relaionship.

Women have to prove to the world that they can make it on their own after a marriage fails. That’s why its easier for your SO to spend time away from you. Perhaps you should try and show her how to be more affectionate in her time with you?

Perhaps follow her example of balancing her time with a love and time on her own?

See which works for you and if both work do both