Hi H,

Instead of Psyching yourself out and putting tremendous pressure on yourself that “you are 23, no girlfriend, never held hands” instead focus on smaller things and when the time is right, the girlfriend will come.

Don’t think that if you form friendships, they will “all become toxic” this is simply not true. There are many lonely people our there both men and women with the same interests as you, that are healthy and not toxic. If you run into a toxic person, like we all do, remove them from your life, but don’t miss out on the pleasure and companionship of friendships. Start of slowly, maybe ask a group of people out for coffee. Let them know you are single. They may have someone I’m mind for you.

When you meet a woman, Try to think that you are just meeting “another friend” and take it slow. The holding hands will come naturally, when you are not even thinking about it. Lastly be good and gentle to yourself and don’t say awful things to yourself. The next time you critique yourself, ask yourself “is this something I would tell my best friend?”..I’m sure you wouldn’t. Be your own best friend. Women will gravitate to a man secure and confident with themselves and like the way they look. God does not make junk. Try to get involved in more social activities, sports events, a chance where you will meet people. Don’t think “you have to meet a woman” it’s too much pressure. It will come. Keep us posted.