Mina, Eliana, & Anita – thank you for the input.

I agree with all you’re saying – I must love myself and be my own best friend. I must be secure and confident with myself if I am going to be able to love someone else and avoid anxiety and stress in my future relationship.

Mina – you were particularly right about being very attached – I can see myself doing this.

Eliana – you are very correct, I must be secure and love myself – I need confidence.

Anita – I meant alone in terms of friends and a relationship. I’ve always had my family to be grateful for, but I would like to find love.

My question to all of you remains: How do I love myself? How can I feel secure? How do I drop the desperation and neediness for a relationship so that I may attract love into my life. I have read numerous articles on here but I still feel lost.

Thank you once again.