Dear Sophie:

No need to apologize for posting on your thread- you are welcome, anytime! It is not burdensome for me.

It is impossible to figure things out when one’s brain is “going 100 miles an hour’s 24/7” and no wonder you wrote: “my brain is fried”- when a brain goes 100 miles an hour non-stop, no wonder it fries. The good news is it is not permanently fried.

Your father told you: “you will cry a lot and you will be sad… you don’t have a crystal ball so just be calm” – the problem I have with his statement is that he is predicting the future (that you will cry a lot and be sad) on one hand, and on the other hand, he says that you cannot predict the future (not having a crystal ball). Truth is: he cannot predict the future either.

But when a parent offers a prediction to a child/ adult child, the child takes the prediction very seriously and that may not be to one’s benefit.

Regarding your boyfriend- does he know of your brain going 100 miles per hour regarding your relationship with him? Does he know the extent of your distress regarding the relationship and your conflict regarding staying vs. Traveling? If so, what is his input?

anita