Hey Pearce and Joe, thank you for commenting, it’s nice to know there are people here who aren’t Buddhist (not that being Buddhist is a bad thing), like I said earlier, I feel like everyone here just exudes honesty. And at the time I found this website, I felt like a husk, I was thoroughly convinced I was a bad person and that I was just pretending to be a good person so I could lie to myself. I might have come across things like having compassion for people who have wronged you, taking responsibility, not being a victim before coming across this website, but I never truly understood what any of it meant. I just felt like I would say things like “have compassion” to friends asking me for advice, knowing good and damn well that I didn’t do it myself (I STILL find it hard) just because I thought it was “appropriate” to say.