Dear sophie:

You wrote: ” I’ve been on several dates with the same guy and when he wanted to move the relationship further, I got scared and pulled away.”- you got fearful, anxious.

Then you wrote: “I get nightmare and find myself waking up all alarmed and sweating. So, I know I want a boyfriend… someone to share my life with”- I am thinking that maybe the solution to the anxiety is not a boyfriend but quality psychotherapy. I bet there is a lot of quality psychotherapy in Manhattan, and as a professional, I hope you can afford it.

There is something in such therapy, I tend to think, that will make your life be more about living than surviving (“It often feels more of surviving than living”).

anita