Thank u so much Inky. I really know this is what I should do but I become really weak when it comes to telling him to leave. He really loves me and cares for me. There is (at the moment) nothing wrong with him, not even his addictions, except him not working. It’s just that I feel really bad for my son. It’s his birthday soon and I asked him what does he want for his birthday and he replied with tears in his eyes saying ” I just want to live with mummy n daddy , will it come true mum? ” my heart broke into million pieces. But how do I justify it to my partner. He will says it’s just that he doesn’t work and that’s the issue and he is trying to sort it. I don’t have any solid grounds and hence it will make me feel so guilty. I am really really struggling