Hi, Jeff,

I personally find it most nerve-wracking when the opposite party doesn’t respond to important questions, ignores them (and, by extension, ignores you, your needs and what you two had together in the past (and you may be still thinking that you still have something in the present!)). That’s how my ex behaved in the end. Hope that she does say something eventually. But even if she doesn’t respond, you will have your answer. The unavailable man I keep thinking about has always responded to any message of mine straight away – maybe that is one more reason why I am hopeful in the back of my mind. At the same time, I am fully aware of the fact that I may very well never see him or hear from him again, and, strangely enough, I am okay with it.

So yes, you Goal 2 is a tremendously good thing. As they say, you are the only person you are going to spend your entire life with, so it never hurts to get to know yourself better.

And hopefully Goal 1 will help you to shift your focus elsewhere, to distract your brain and build new neuron paths. I like one quote that ends in “… no amount of worry will change the future.” Whatever comes your way will come of its own or as a result of your actions, but not as a result of your thoughts or worries for sure (unless it is a nervous meltdown, insomnia or anything similar).

I hope you derive at least some pleasure from the journey!

Good luck and take care,

X

P.S. And yes, it may sound incredible, but you will know when the time is right. For everything. I don’t know how it happens, but at some point you just know.