Dear Scott:

You wrote: “my parents being divorced and for some time I was very upset with my mom for being with my step dad and I would think that they weren’t supposed to have sexual relations or that she didn’t love me as much”-

You were angry at your mother for having sex with her new husband. You felt that it meant that she didn’t love you as much.

I am thinking that the anger you felt then is not a thing of the past. It gets reactivated in context of your girlfriend. You may very well be projecting your mother into her, and the same hurt and same anger gets activated.

What do you think?

anita