Dear Ale:

Pay attention to what you say to yourself, your thoughts. When you notice that you said something critical to yourself, something unloving, something you wouldn’t tell a child you care about, pause. Then say something true and loving to yourself.

For example: you dropped something on the floor and it broke. You notice that you said to yourself: how stupid I am! I can’t do anything right!

You pause and say to yourself: this is no way to talk to myself. It is okay to make mistakes. It is okay to not operate perfectly. I will pick up the broken pieces and clean the floor so no one gets hurt. It is okay. I am okay. (you can say all this to yourself in Italian).

anita