Hi Louise,

You say he is a “good guy in some ways” but I don’t see any good guy after reading your post and the horrible, abusive things he said to you. It makes me sad, and I’m so glad you left that toxic person. You then stated, he was flirting with other women on Social media, so his emoji to you of a kiss, I doubt was sincere, if he is flirting with other women, he is probably sending them flirty, emoji’s as well.

I would not have any more contact with this man, no quick “meetings” no matter how charming he may be. Abusers most often mask themselves as charming and flirtatious, and then as soon as they hook you, they do a complete turn around. They don’t or will never change. You can’t fix him. Only with the help with a professional therapist, and if he wants to change, will or perhaps he may change.

Let’s say he wants to get back together? Would you really be happy to go back to a verbally abusive man and stagnant relationship? Someone who talks about straitjackets and make unkind comments about weight? You deserve better. A relationship with a loving, healthy, stable, kind man.