He’s not the one for you.
You’ve spent enough time ruminating on things that are a vicious cycle, which aren’t ever going to change. At this point, the problems with that relationship are so multiple that, by the time you might be able to fix one, another will crop up. Or a huge life issue, such as an illness. In other words, life is happening outside.
Honestly, it sounds like there are no pieces to pick up. Every relationship has good times – amazing times – this is b/c we are human, and great things happen to humans inside relationships, even when those relationships are only meant to be short-term life lessons, and stepping stones on life’s path. These good times are to be used as memories – reasons to be grateful for having spent a chunk of time with another person – however, they are Not to be confused with valid reasons to stay in a dead-end relationship.
You have faith, positive hopes, and ambitions – that much is clear. Don’t waste them by projecting them onto a relationship that isn’t meant for you. It is a waste of good faith, hopes and dreams that are meant for a different relationship. One that you KNOW works, and one that you do Not have to come to the Tiny Buddha website to obtain “advice” on for what you already know in your gut when you listen to it.
Get off of this hamster wheel that you are on. It will only wear you down, make you cynical, bitter – and you Don’t even need to let it.
Move on and much love.
xo
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