Hello -Extra-ordinaryChica,

I saw your other post about healing your disassociation and wanted to comment on it before as I have similar issues with it, but wasn’t sure what to say. I should have said thank you for talking about it so openly. I’m very glad to see you’re managing it better!

Recently I also realised I can’t rely on my parents as I would like to. As anita said, letting go has been the most helpful thing for me. Accepting them both for who they are, and not expecting otherwise or trying to change them. This means I’ve been turning to my support worker instead more, learn to support myself a bit better, and trust that the support I give myself is just as valid as getting it from someone else.

I was worried I’d feel more alone by letting go of people, but then I realised they’ve not really been there for me emotionally all along, and yet here I am. It has been sad to realise, but is reassuring to know it can get better as I invest in other new relationships.

I think just acknowledging that I’m allowed to feel angry or upset, and that it’s okay, has been quite helpful too? And understanding my parents’ own situations better. They’re human, and have their own troubles that they’ve maybe not worked through.

Hope this is helpful somehow. 🙂