Dear Nina:

You asked: “How can he break up like that when 30 min earlier he said he loved me and we spoke about marriage is it that easy to leave someone you love?”

For some people it is easy. The meaning of love is dependent on the nature of the person doing the loving. If the loving person is honest, consistent, dependent, empathetic, responsible, then their love is quality, something to count on. If the loving person is dishonest, or sometimes dishonest, inconsistent, impulsive, un-empathetic, then their love is not of quality, not something you can count on.

The fact that he told you that he loved you, talking about marrying you and thirty minutes later, thirty minutes only, broke up with you leads me to think that he is not dependable, inconsistent, maybe impulsive and unreliable. Did you observe such a nature about him before?

anita