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Vanessa
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Hey, it sucks to say that I can relate so much with all these stories, however, it is somewhat nice to see that I am not alone in this. So a while ago while I was in high school one of my classmates kind of suddenly fell in love with me. We were barely friends and after a few weeks that school started he started telling me that he had feelings for me. At the time I had no interest in dating him so I just honestly friend-zoned him as much as I could without hurting his feelings. After a while I started catching feelings for him too, and as he realized that he just tried harder and harder to get me date him until we finally kissed during a school trip and started dating soon after. Our relationship was perfect for the first two years,  we were very happy and he was honestly a really good boyfriend. After we graduated high school we went to college in the same town, same as most of our friends and thing started getting weird. He had a best friend ever since he was a child and I had never felt jealous of her until one day I felt they were getting too close. I would constantly ask him if he had feelings for her and he would laugh at me and sometimes even make me feel like I was crazy, he would constantly tell me she was like a sister to him and that I was just being crazy. We had many fights because of that since they would text so much (although at the time she did not live in the same town we did). One day she came to visit and rumors started spreading around that they had kissed at a party. I was heartbroken and ended things with him immediately. Next thing I knew they were both denying it and making me feel crazy, she even told me that she was in love with someone else and that my boyfriend was like a brother to her and all he did was help her with her own emotional issues. After that incident I asked him to stop talking to her which was easy since she lived in another city. A year passed and our relationship got crappy, I was always very insecure around him and anytime I said anything he would make me feel like I was crazy. One day he came to my house and told me that he had started speaking to her again and that they were friends again, that day was the last drop. I broke up with him and did not speak to him for a week, I ignored his texts and calls until one day when I was feeling better I decided to call him back. When we finally got to speak all he would say was that he did not love me anymore and did not care about me anymore, he claimed that during that week that I did not speak to him he realized that he had absolutely no feelings for me. My first thought was that he had started dating her, however, everyone in our lives (him included) would deny that that would even be possible. Months passed until one day a friend of ours told me that they were actually dating and that they had been dating ever since we broke up. I then realized that not only had he lied to me for at least a year of our relationship but also that he had cheated on me with her multiple times both physically and emotionally. I was devastated, but things were even worse when she decided to move to the city him and I lived at. Its honestly a torture, she is now going to the same school that I am and since she is also friends with my friends I have to see her or hear about her and him all the time. I feel betrayed by my boyfriend of 4 years and even my friends that just decided to ignore the fact that they cheated on me and kept on being friends with her anyways. Its been a while since that happened, but I struggle so so much with it. I cant believe no one stood up for me, I can’t believe they did that to me, I cant believe I wasted 4 years of my life in a fake relationship. I have to see them almost everywhere. They know how bad they hurt me and it seems like that is a turn on for them. If I suffer, they’re happy and powerful. I can’t stand how happy they are together, how much his family likes her and how little my friends care about what happened. Can life really be this unfair? I used to believe in karma so much and thought that if he cheated on me chances were he would probably cheat on her as well, but it just seems like he miraculously changed for her. Do you guys have any advice or some words of wisdom for me? I can’t deal with how unfair things have been, they were awful but couldnt be happier about it, and I am, on the other hand miserable.