Dear Sassypants:

It reads to me that you are intensely invested, emotionally, in this new man in your life. What you had with the ex boyfriend doesn’t seem to compete with the emotional draw to this new man. You asked of you chose correctly: no one can predict the future, I believe. Some time in the future, looking back, you may be thinking: “If I chose X, the results would be better”- maybe. Thing is, such thinking is futile because we don’t live in two parallel worlds where you can choose X in one world and Y on the other.

There are too many factors, many are random, that happen after you choose X. You cannot predict those factors, and therefore your choice cannot be evaluated as right or wrong based on future results.

The only factors that are wise to consider is the nature of the man you are involved with. If he is honest, open and honest with you, if what he values is compatible with what you value, if he is consistent, dependable, reliable, then he is not a wrong choice.

anita