Hi None.

Talk about being between a rock and a hard place. Sheesh. I think that when he asks things like “asking me if at that moment we were chatting I wanted something so I told him I wannahug and kiss the baby,” you should be vague and say something like, ” No, I don’t need anything. I’m good.” The way you answered, ” I wannahug and kiss the baby,” was an opportunity for him to create an “opening” to get into your life a little more, apparently a place where you don’t want him to be because, as you said “I am not that open about my life with everyone.” One option is for you to invite your cousin to brunch, lunch, or whatever, and start off with a simple question, “so how are the two of you doing now that there is a baby in your life?”. I wouldn’t ask that right away. I’d focus on the cute baby at first then ask that question. If she says they are doing great, or fine, then I would bring it up and show her the text. If she says they are having some troubles, you can explore that then show the text. Either way, personally, I think she needs to know. I’d definitely put some distance between you and him, subtle enough to let him know that you don’t need a player in your life. I’m just a little harsh with this sort of thing because it happened to me. It started off with a text like the one you got, too many “private” phone calls, etc. I left to go to the Middle East and when I returned I found out she had been with this guy pretty seriously. You give these kind of people an inch they will take a mile. Should you choose to NOT mention something, things go bad to worse, and your cousin finds out that you have known about this for a while, this could easily be seen as betrayal, it could easily be seen as you were in collusion with him, that your cousin could easily ask, “how long have you known about this?” or “why didn’t you tell me earlier?” Nothing good really comes out of this sort of thing. Distance yourself from him and consider telling your cousin.

Pearce