Anita,

You asked : “Can you imagine, Mina, that what your mother taught you is not completely true?”

I agree with this statement. The thing is, most of the remarks that my mother made – in a sense was proven to be true.

For example, my mother has a good friend, they have been friends since my mother was pregnant with me so they went a way back. This particular friend of my mother married the “wrong person” according to my mother. The friend married someone financially unstable, I remember very vividly my mother telling me at that time when I was quite young around 10 or 11 years old that her friend is suffering because of this. My mother told me how her friends family had warned her NOT to marry this guy yet my mothers friend did not listened and went through with the marriage. Well, the friend has 3 kids now and had to worked her ass off for her family to eat. She loves to shop and travel, and there was an occasion when I travelled with her and it was so sad to see her hiding her expensive handbags from her husband because he does not agree with her buying bags. I do not want to imagine having to do that with my future husband. The friend also had to have her third child not on a hospital but on a small clinic because she lacked money. My mother told me that the moral of the story is to listen to your parents when it comes to partners.

I still have quite a few scary stories that my mother told me, that are definitely proven to be true. Most people that does not have her approval does live miserably, I personally tried to checked.

Reading your feedback, I understand where you are coming from, Anita. You mentioned that I should have evaluated her teaching, I tried. You think that I believed my mother words as it is when I heard it? I believe it when I am also seeing it myself. and most of the time, I am seeing the same things as my mother had told me.

I cannot shake off the mindset that being a nobody is scary when I have been told that it is not ok to be a nobody in this world by my own parents. I trust them, and I love them, I am sure they want me to live well and not be miserable due to marrying the wrong person.

I wonder, if you have any feedback regarding this? I am always open to advices.

-Mina