Hi Cranberry,

You may have not lost your ex. Just because he is following that girl around on social media, may not mean anything is happening romantically, more of an online pen-pal. Have you done any work on your issues as such as the jealousy and other issues such as counseling? I would work on these issues and yourself. Give him some time. Maybe after a few months, give him a call, tell him, you are deeply sorry, for any hurt you may have caused him, and that you have gotten in treatment for jealousy, etc. Also, please don’t follow him around on social media because it will only make you more miserable and lonely. While you are emotionally charged, try not to have any contact with him. Delete him from social media, etc for awhile while you work on your issues and ready to talk to him again. When you do talk to him, keep it light, friendly, casual and simple. Nothing heavy. No pleading or asking him to please get back together. Don’t make it uncomfortable for him. He knows you still care. The ball is in his court. Just go slowly and become friends again and go from there.

Psychology is a great major. I have a BA in it. Stay at the University. In time, you will find yourself less overwhelmed and lonely, and you will think about him less as time goes on. You will make new memories, make new friends, get involved with new activities. It just takes time. Keep us posted.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 3 months ago by Eliana.