Dear Sunset:

You wrote that he “turned on me one night when I became emotional for being away from home” – a possible explanation for him turning against you is that part of him still longs to have a relationship with his parents and siblings (“He told me he doesn’t have much of A relationship with his parents (his dad more so – feels neglected.. nor does he have much of a relationship with his sibling”). When he witnessed your longing for your family, he became aware of his own, and hated himself for it, and automatically, quickly, he projected that hate to you.

Such a dynamic is common, and if it is true, or something similar to it is true, his reaction to you getting emotional indeed has nothing to do with you and everything to do with his own life experience, way before he ever met you.

Regarding your friend, because the kissing him bothers you so much, if I was you, I would tell her, in just the way you shared about it here. Maybe I would share this very thread with her. Actually, I think sharing this thread with her is an excellent idea- it shows your sincerity, that you indeed like your friend, it shows your concern for her, your concerns about her liking this man.

anita