Dear Anita,

it is not that I feel that she could love me that deeply.. I saw the place she was in in her life and it hurt to see her that way. I wanted to help her see that she is valuable beyond what she thinks she is.

and im comfused with what you wrote here anita “your lying to the ex and the present girlfriend secretly following your facebook indicate no such helping each other”

lying to my ex? is that what you meant? im not understanding

and you are saying healing and learning can only come after we break up?

but thank you for your input thus far